What is a Simp? The Cons of Simping and the Better Option
A lot of young men these days crave a woman’s attention. They’d do anything to have even a bit of it. Sadly, these young men are misguided; thinking that what they’re doing will gain a woman’s favor.
They’d buy her things, send her gifts, pay for her expenses with lustful and romantic intentions, even when they’re not dating. On the contrary, it’s the men who are often abused and exploited.
Picture this—You’re on social media, mindlessly scrolling through your feed—a regular day of discovering what’s up with the world, what your favorite singers are posting, and then you see some model or influencer posting something a bit suggestive. You check their comments section and to no surprise, it’s loaded with simps!
But what is a simp?
Never Heard of The Term “Simp”
If you’re not too updated with internet slang, you might be wondering what a simp is. According to the Urban Dictionary, the meaning of simps is: A type of person who does way too much for a person they like. In the Merriam-Webster Dictionary, a simp is often defined as a derogatory insult for people (usually men) who show excessive concern, attention, and love for someone.
Identifying and Knowing What a Simp Is
As defined, simps are people who would do anything for a person they’re interested in, even if they know they’re just playing a parasocial game with a person who doesn’t feel the same way they do. You’d mostly see them on streaming sites like Twitch, donating hundreds, if not thousands, of dollars just for the streamer to say their name or notice them.
The thing with simping is that it leans more towards a person's lustful desires. Hence, many women have observed that men who act too nice and give away too much tend to have a motive. By love bombing a woman, they’d expect a return on their investment. And that return is often the chance to bed them.
If you go to a beautiful woman’s Instagram page whose followers are at least by the thousands and you check the comments section in their posts, you will see tons of men making thirsty comments. Or maybe you checked their stories and see that the model is doing a Q&A type of thing, and she featured one of the answers, which goes something like “You’re so beautiful, I would do anything for you.”
Don’t mistake yourself for a simp from a man who loves his girlfriend/wife. Men who outwardly show love and attention, and have a slight obsession on their significant others are completely normal. A simp on the other hand, has selfish hidden agendas.
Being a Simp is Harmless… Unless You’re Overdoing It
We understand it can be a bit lonely when you don’t have anyone to show love and attention to. The truth is, we unknowingly simp on our favorite artists and celebrities too. There’s nothing inherently wrong with that. But when it borders on obsession, that’s when it becomes problematic.
It’s not always the simp’s fault, however. Some influencers intentionally play a parasocial game on lonely people, and it gets a little too much. They know that these men are lonely and desperate, so they capitalize on their loneliness for their selfish gains.
These simps don’t realize that they’re being used—they spend money just to have their names mentioned; to feel what it is like to have someone give them attention. Or they’re often farmed for engagement and views.
There was an instance that happened in the olden days of Craigslist Thailand. A man from the US who stayed in Phuket for a long-term visit because of his job, was able to connect with a woman in Bangkok. He fell head over heels for her.
He spent over $2000 on the woman, all the while, she never really gave him much in return. The man spent money on gifts, trips, and dinner, but the woman only gave him kisses and hugs—nothing more.
With that said, here are other reasons why being too much of a simp can be dangerous:
A Fractured Reality
A lot of simps who are simping on their favorite person can become delusional. Sadly, a lot of these men have never experienced genuine conversations with women. They get their references from shows, movies, and even anime (animation and cartoons from Japan).
When simps are given attention, they often think they’re the only ones given the attention. This creates a fantasy of being in a relationship. Because of their lack of experience and the fact that they are getting their ideas from modern-day media, they’re more prone to being delusional. They think they can win a woman’s heart by giving her what she wants. But in reality, they don’t know that the people they’re obsessing over are only using them.
The old Craigslist Bangkok used to be a haven for simps. In fact, there was a time when a man found someone on the platform to date. He met a Thai woman who was willing to entertain him. Unfortunately for him, their "relationship" was one-sided.
The woman knew his intentions weren’t true, so she played along and milked him out of his money. He spent a good amount on the woman, only to be rejected in the end. In his eyes, he thought she loved him because of his gifts and the money he spent on her.
Obsessive and Possessive
What is a simp without being a possessive creep or stalker? Because of their parasocial relationship with a person, they often bring themselves to a delusional state where they think they’re in an actual relationship together. With that in mind, they tend to be excessive when it comes to love bombing the person they’re simping for.
They mistake dedication for obsession. Instead of utilizing their expenses for their needs, they would rather spend it on a woman they don’t know, and has no interest in them in the first place.
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When all is said and done, would you still prefer to be a simp or would you rather have a normal relationship with someone who will love you in return?
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