Why Do Nice Guys Never Get the Girl? The Truth You Need to Hear

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Why do nice guys never get the girl? It’s because being nice is not enough to attract a woman.

You know the trope, right?

He’s this bad boy who wears all black and rides a motorcycle. He’s mysterious and dangerous, but the leading lady can’t help but be drawn to him.

Her best friend is a guy. He’s nice, but he’s just not exciting enough for her.

She wants the bad boy.

It’s a classic movie plot. But you know what they say about how art imitates life. More often than not, the nice guys never win in the romance department.

Growing up, we are taught to be nice to others. Our parents tell us that if we are nice, people will be nice to us in return. This is a lesson that many of us carry into adulthood.

However, the reality is that being nice doesn’t always guarantee success in the dating scene.

Many nice guys find themselves struggling to attract women. They feel like they are always being passed over for the bad boys. This can be a frustrating and demoralizing experience. This is especially true for those who have been taught that being nice is the right way to behave.

So why do nice guys never get the girl? And why don’t women like nice guys? Or do they?

Here, we will discuss the reasons why “nice guys” often don’t get the girl. And it’s not mainly because they’re nice.

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6 Things Nice Guys Do Wrong

“I’m a nice guy, but no girl likes me. Why?”

If you’ve ever found yourself wondering this, you have to accept that most girls don’t like a man who embodies the “nice guy” stereotype. Many guys struggle with this, but once they realize why, it’s a turn for the better.

You wonder what you’re doing wrong, and why women don’t seem to be attracted to you. After all, you’re so nice and you wouldn’t hurt a fly.

A nice guy drinking with a bad boy.
It’s not true that nice guys never win, you just need to balance your niceness with other qualities to stand out.

So here are the most common reasons why women don’t like nice guys:

  1. You are “too nice.”

    In other words, you’re boring and weak.

    Most women don’t want someone who is always agreeable and accommodating. They want someone who can stand up for themselves. Someone who knows how and when to say no.

    If you are always putting others before yourself, you may come across as weak and indecisive. You may also seem like you don’t have any opinions or beliefs of your own. This can make it difficult for people to take you seriously, both in your personal and professional life.

  2. Nice is the only quality you have.

    You’re nice, and that’s it.

    You don’t have any other personality traits that may you stand out. You may be seen as one-dimensional, and again, boring. People may not be interested in getting to know you on a deeper level.

    Take note that being nice is not a bad thing. In fact, it’s a great quality to have. However, if you want to be successful in dating, you need to balance your niceness with other qualities.

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  1. You are too eager to please.

    You always want to be the hero, just not that kind of hero.

    Women appreciate someone who is kind and helpful, but they don’t want someone who is always trying to please them. They want someone who is confident and secure in themselves

    If you’re always trying to be the hero, you may be coming across as someone who is desperate for approval. This can be off-putting to women, as it makes you seem like you don’t have your own life or identity.

  2. You are too self-deprecating.

    You think you’re being humble, but you just come off as pathetic.

    You may think you’re being humble by downplaying your accomplishments and abilities, but in reality, you’re just coming across as insecure and lacking in self-esteem. This can be a major turn-off for women, who are looking for partners who are confident and self-assured.

    When you constantly put yourself down, it creates a negative aura around you that can be off-putting to others. Women may see you as weak and lacking in the qualities they’re looking for in a partner. As a result, you may be making yourself less attractive to them.

  3. A woman expressing her dislike to a nice guy.
    There are other factors why women don’t like nice guys. It’s not just because they’re nice.
  4. You’re too easy to read.

    You’re too predictable for her liking.

    Blame it on cliché movies but women often crave excitement in a relationship. And they want a man who is mysterious and will let them experience new things.

    You, on the other hand, are always the one to plan the dates. You always order the same thing at restaurants, and you never seem to want to try anything new. This can make her feel bored and unchallenged. Eventually, it can lead to her losing interest in you.

  5. You are simply not her type.

    It’s not you, it’s her.

    You can’t force someone to like you if they’re already in love with someone else. No matter how nice you are to her, or how much you comfort her, she’s not going to change her mind if she’s already set her sights on someone else.

    The problem here isn’t you. The problem is that you’re not her type or she’s in love with someone else, just like you’re in love with her. And that’s just how love and life go sometimes.

How to Attract the Girl You Deserve

Why do nice guys never get the girl they like?

Because being nice is not the only reason why women may not be attracted to you.

It’s true that being nice is a great quality to have, but it’s not the only thing that women are looking for in a partner. Sometimes, you also need to offer something else. You also need to show confidence, excitement, and a sense of adventure.

If you’re a nice guy who is tired of being passed over, it’s time to make a change. Stop being a doormat and start standing up for yourself. Be confident in who you are and what you have to offer.

One tangible change you can make is to be more decisive. Once you make a decision, stick to it and don’t apologize.

Show women that you’re interesting and exciting, and that you have a life outside of your relationship.

Most importantly, be yourself. Don’t try to be someone you’re not just to attract women. The right woman will appreciate you for who you are, even if you’re not the most traditionally “masculine” guy.

Remember, you don’t need to wear a black leather jacket, ride a motorcycle, and act like a bad boy to attract the girl you deserve.

Again, you just need to be yourself, be confident, and be interesting. If you do those things, there’s no reason for the right girl not to notice you.