How to Approach Women in Public

A man eyeing a woman in public.
When you learn how to approach women in public, you will increase your chance of building a new connection.

Do you get nervous about approaching a woman in public?

It’s a common fear. After all, you don’t want to be seen as a creep or a threat. And with all the negative news spread around the news and social media, a lot of women have become wary about men approaching them.

But here’s the truth: not all men are creeps, and not all women are scared of men. If you’re respectful, considerate, and have genuine intentions, there’s no reason why you can’t approach a woman in public and start a conversation.

But how do you draw the line between simply being nice and being creepy and unsettling?

By knowing how to approach women in public places the right way, you can make the distinction If you’re genuinely interested in a girl and you want to make the most of the moment, it’s crucial that you express yourself in a way that’s respectful, considerate, and confident but not aggressive.

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How to Approach Women in Public

Few men are ever confident enough in themselves to approach a woman in public, and for good reason. You’ll be judged by the people around you, her friends, and even herself. You worry about being labeled a creep or a stalker, and you certainly don’t want to make her feel uncomfortable and unsafe.

At the same time, you’re awestruck about her beauty and you figure you’ll never cross paths again. Now is your chance, and if you play your cards right, your courage will pay dividends.

So if or when that moment comes, how do you not squander it?

Here are some tips on how to approach a woman in public in a respectful and confident way:

  1. Dress well and take care of your appearance.

    We can’t predict when a serendipitous encounter will happen. But we can always be ready for one.

    First impressions matter. It’s helpful if you can make a good one by dressing well and taking care of your overall appearance. You don’t need to look like a corporate CEO when you approach her. A simple shirt and jeans will do, as long as you make yourself look put-together and respectable. You also want to make sure your clothes are clean and free of wrinkles.

  2. Choose the right time.

    Assuming you cross paths with this woman a lot, it’s best to catch her when she isn’t too preoccupied.

    Don’t approach a woman when she’s working or running errands. Instead, try striking up a conversation when she’s relaxed and seems open to talking. For instance, you could approach her when she seems just scanning through her phone or hanging out alone or with friends. If it’s the first time you’re seeing this girl, at least choose a time when she’s likely to be receptive to your advances.

  3. A woman in public drinking coffee.
    If you approach a woman in public in the wrong way, you may be seen as a threat.
  4. Introduce Yourself.

    You’re the first one to make a move, so you have to introduce yourself. But make it brief and precise. It also helps to practice your opener in front of a mirror several times. In the heat of the moment, you’ll need your muscle memory to take over.

    Prepare to share a little something about yourself, such as your job, hobbies, or interests. This will help her get to know you better and show that you’re friendly and approachable. It’s also important to be polite, confident, and respectful when introducing yourself. This will make a good impression and set a positive tone for the conversation.

  5. Be mindful of your body language.

    Your body language says a lot about you. When you approach a woman, be mindful of your gestures and how you act. Make sure you stand up straight, make eye contact, and smile. However, don’t stare too long, as this could be seen as creepy. You don’t want to make her feel uncomfortable. Also, avoid crossing your arms or fidgeting, as this could make you look nervous or insecure. Again, do some mirror rehearsals beforehand.

  6. Be confident but not cocky.

    There’s a thin line between being confident and being cocky. Confidence is attractive, but cockiness is a turn-off. For example, instead of saying something like, “You’re lucky to be talking to me,” you could say something like, “You seem really interesting.” The key is to be genuine, respectful, and humble.

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  1. Don’t be afraid to use humor.

    Humor is a way to break the ice and make a woman feel comfortable. However, it’s important to use humor appropriately and avoid making any jokes that could be offensive or off-putting. But remember that if you make a joke, take a moment to assess the situation. If the woman seems uncomfortable or if you’re in a serious setting, it’s probably best to avoid humor altogether. Always be mindful of what to say when approaching a girl for the first time

  2. Be respectful of her personal space.

    Don’t get too close to her or invade her personal space. Give her enough room to feel comfortable. Avoid touching her unless she initiates it. You could be seen as aggressive and unwanted. If she wants to touch you, she’ll let you know through her actions. Pay attention to her reactions. If she seems uncomfortable or backed away from you, it’s time to leave her alone.

  3. A group of men not approaching women at the next table.
    Men not approaching women first isn’t going to get them anywhere.
  4. Be genuine and interested.

    Ask her questions about herself and listen to her answers. Show that you’re genuinely interested in getting to know her. Try to use open-ended questions so you can learn more about her interests, hobbies, and values. This will help you get to know her better and see if you have anything in common.

  5. Don’t be afraid to take rejection gracefully.

    We’ve heard men not approaching women for fear of rejection. But you don’t have to take rejection personally. If she’s not interested, just smile and say, “It was nice meeting you.” Then move on. She may just not be interested in anyone right now, or she may be looking for something different in a partner. It doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you, it just means she’s not interested.

Be Comfortable With Yourself.

Traditionally, it’s expected for men to make the first move when it comes to dating. But there are many shy guys who would appreciate it if women approached them first. This is understandable, as it can be nerve-wracking to approach a beautiful woman and make the first move. But you also need to gain the confidence of approaching women first.

To approach women successfully, guys need to be themselves. Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not, especially if you’re really interested in the girl. If you show her the real you, she’ll be able to see the real you too. This way, you’ll both get to know each other better, beyond just the physical attraction.

Remember, to meet a beautiful woman is one thing, but to find one who is also kind, intelligent, and funny is another. So don’t waste your time trying to be someone you’re not. Just be yourself, and the right woman will appreciate you for who you are.